Men, it can be a hard job finding someone special to date out there. The permissiveness of the Western culture in which we live is often counterculture to the Christian lifestyle. It can leave you wondering if there are any virtuous women left in the world.
Well, good news, you don’t need to become Amish to find a good woman. Whether you prefer a date that’s reserved or outspoken, we’re happy to tell you that there are plenty of Bible-believing Christian women looking for a man like you.
That’s why we’ve taken the time to write this article. It has some tried and true advice for finding the right woman for you. If you follow the guidelines below, you’ll find God’s match for you in no time.
Dating with a Purpose
If you think it’s hard to find someone to date, it’s even harder to find someone to marry. But if you aren’t dating to become married, then you need to reevaluate what you’re doing. You should be dating to find a partner in life because marriage is the point of dating.
Think about it, it makes no sense to date a non-believer. As Christians, we’re called only to marry other Christians (1Cor. 7:39), and therefore, dating non-believers is actually against the will of God for your life. You can probably feel your options getting slimmer by the moment, but the good news is that these are the type of women you want to find.
A virtuous woman who practices her Christian faith is invaluable, and she will always be more trustworthy than any other woman you might consider (Pro. 31:10-11). Plus, as a woman of value herself, she is also following this advice to only date other Christians. Most importantly, you literally have the most necessary thing in common: faith in Jesus.
How comforting it must be to know that she is already saved. The hardest part of the job is done already, thanks to the Holy Spirit. So, if you are smart enough to follow this advice, you will also be lucky enough to reap the rewards of God’s work in her life.
Find a Date Online
It’s no surprise that online dating is becoming more and more prevalent, and nowadays, it’s often praised as the most viable format for finding dates in your local area. However, in light of our previous section, it might come as a pleasant surprise to learn that there are exclusively Christian dating sites.
Check Your Local Church
A lot of people make a quick jump to the internet to find dates without checking their local church first. Bigger is usually better most of the time, but that’s not always true when it comes to Christian dating. If you attend a medium or large church, there are likely a few single Christian women there already. Choosing to date one of them might ultimately be better than doing a search online.
That’s because finding someone in your local congregation gives you a number of advantages over finding a date online. Finding someone locally saves you from the hard decision of which church to attend if things begin to get serious. In addition, due to attending the same church, you’ll likely know the same people too and be better equipped for one another. Furthermore, you would already share the same denominational beliefs and have similar theological convictions with one another.
For those reasons and many more, we believe the benefits of finding someone locally far outweigh those of finding someone online. In fact, if this situation applies to you, we suggest you search locally before searching online. After all, if nothing comes of this route, you can always try the online avenue afterward!
The Power of Prayer
Prayer is one of the most underutilized gifts of God. As men, it’s typical to be more focused on doing something to make a difference than asking someone to help make a difference. Unfortunately, this principle tends to apply to our prayer life too, and it stops us from asking God for help in situations that we want to control.
However, counter to our natural inclinations, God desires for us to rely on His abilities instead of our own. The Apostle Peter reminds us to cast our fears, burdens, and anxieties on the Lord because He cares for us (1Pet. 5:7). That means casting your innermost fear of never finding a wife and your outermost burden of being a single man surrounded by married friends.
We want to encourage you to ask the Lord to provide a helpmate for you. Rely on His abilities above your own and pray for a spouse. Take a step of faith and commit your way to the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psa. 37:4).
Rest in the Sovereignty of God
Finally, always remember that God is in control of all things and all circumstances. This includes your love life and all of your relationships. It’s not like these moments eluded Him; He knew you would be here reading this article right now.
Not only is God omniscient, but He is also omnipotent. He has the ability to change your circumstances and unite you with someone who loves Him too. If you’re trusting Him for salvation, you can trust Him to give you a spouse when the time is right.
We encourage you to rest in His ability to know what’s best for you by putting into practice the biblical pieces of advice from above. Seek only to date other Christians. Cast your cares on the Lord and pray for His help in finding a mate. Finally, rest in the sovereignty of God.